What is my identity?
Before I gave my life to God I would have said who I was is simple. Then I would have listed everything I liked, my hobbies, and things I wanted in life. In the kingdom of God you can do the same thing. You can make a detailed list of everything you are involved in, and that isn’t bad, but when asked “who are you?” Most people stammer and don’t really know how to answer without inserting their hobbies.
Let me make an example:
I am Emily.
I am a mom of four.
I am a wife.
I am a baker.
I enjoy beach vacations.
I love mocha coffee.
I love a good heart felt movie.
My hobbies include:
Eating snacks beside the fridge so my kids can’t see
And wishing for my annual anniversary date without kids.
Okay, stop right here and write down how you would fill in for your “identity”. Did it look similar to mine? Probably the same/same but different. We often mistake our identities for what the world can see without knowing us. We say things like, “I’m a soccer mom, real estate attorney, coach…etc” we focus on what we do, or what the average any day person could observe and write down that’s part of our routine, and things we enjoy. But back to the question, what is your identity?
Your identity isn’t in what you do, but what’s inside. Identity is the FACT of being who, or what a person is. Oftentimes we have a skewed reality of what our actual God-given identity is. We hold insecurities that others have placed on us, and maybe we even exalt ourselves based on others perceptions and compliments.
Really hear me now. I had a very precious person that I loved dearly, but they continually put me down. I don’t actually believe they realized they were doing it, but I think it was just the enemy using them. From my appearance, to my calling, to gifts . I didn’t want to talk about anything deep within to them, because I felt like something else of their perceived image of me may overcome my perception, and change my reality. I wasn’t walking in my true identity because someone else muddied the waters and skewed my God given image that I was unrecognizable to myself. Fear, doubt, insecurity, depression can all play a role.
Jacob knew who he was. From inside his mothers womb she knew she had “two nations within her” and they would war. “One stronger, and the older shall serve the younger.” From birth Jacob took Esau’s heel. His identity was prophesied before he was even born. God knew Jacob would essentially swindle his brothers birthright. He knew he would flee, marry Leah and Rachel. He knew the sons that would come from his marriages/handmaids, and ultimately the promise of Abraham would flourish through that bloodline. He knew the 12 tribes of Israel would form from his sons. Jacob knew who he was. God had even bigger plans and gave him a new name, Israel. What if Jacob would have just accepted that Esau was the oldest, and sat down and continued to rest in the tents? What if Jacob had given up with the angel of the lord and not persevered? The name Israel means “God will prevail.” What if others thoughts and their skewed identity of who he was kept him from walking in the fullness the father had for him? There would be no Israel, much less tribes. Jesus wouldn’t come from the lineage of he tribe of Judah, simply because it wouldn’t exist.
God has a plan for each and every one of us. He has his perfect will, which he wants us in He has a permissive will also. One that we will never know the fullness of what he actually had for us. Do you want to settle for the crumbs, or the whole cake he has for your life specifically? I wouldn’t think twice. What a silly question, yet we all pick the crumbs at some point or another. Oftentimes we smash our own cake then cry, because it’s destroyed. Quit allowing people to shame you. Quit allowing others opinions to dictate your next move. Quit allowing the enemy to win over your life. You have to stand up and be obedient to God when he says “move”. Walk when he says “walk”. Speak when he says “speak”. Obey the voice of the lord. Listen to what he says about you. Listen to his truths about who you are.
David was a shepherd boy. He was so overlooked that when Samuel the prophet was told by God to go to the house of Jesse and anoint one of his sons king; David wasn’t even worthy enough in the eyes of his father to include with his other sons. Let that sink in. His OWN father didn’t see his worth. The lord had already prepared Samuel’s heart. He said “do not look at his appearance or physical stature. For the lord does not see as the man sees, for a man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart.” Rewind, and read that again. “God looks on the heart” if we are looking others and judging based off appearances, we are doing no more than the average man. God didn’t see the little sheep boy, but he saw the mighty warrior. He saw the man that would go into battle with the precious name of the lord on his lips, and be victorious. He saw the man who loved the lord, he saw David’s heart
It’s a hard pill to swallow when someone doesn’t see our worth, especially someone close to us. It’s hard not to let those painful things pierce our flesh and physically pull us down. I know, I’ve experienced it. I let someone else’s perceived image almost change my future, because I wanted so be loved so badly. Do you know what God says? Our identity is in Christ Jesus. Our identity is not where we are, but where we are going to be. Our identity is not in our “works” but in our heart. David was a mighty warrior to God, while a shepherd to the eye. Jacob was a weak man who dwelled in tents, but God saw him as the the nation in which he loved so dearly. Someone may say speak their opinions over you, but speak Gods truth. Speak the things he’s laid on your heart. Speak the places he wants you to go. Speak the callings he’s placed on you. Speak the life over the words of doubt and walk in the authority he’s given you.
“You are created in my image” (Genesis 1:27)
” You are chosen” (1 Peter 2:9)(Ephesians 1:4)
“I knew you before you were born, I appointed you” (Jeremiah 1:5)
“I have plans for you” (Jeremiah 29:11)
“ You are his workmanship, created for good works” (Ephesians 2:10)
“You are heirs to a promise” (Galatians 3:27-29)
“You are fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14)
“Children of God” (John 1:12)
“You are loved” (John 3:16-17)
“Bold and Confident in me” (Ephesians 3:12)
Write down all the doubts, things that have caused self esteem issues and insecurities in your life. There’s a difference between someone giving a necessary rebuke for correction, and someone devaluing your worth/ or making you question the identity Gods revealed to you. Write down every lie you believed, then once you finish write the truth next to it using Gods word.
Example: LIE:“you are ugly” TRUTH: I am made in Gods image. (Genesis 1:27)
LIE: “You were a mistake” TRUTH: Before you were formed in the womb, I knew you.” (Jeremiah 1:5)
LIE: “you are worthless” TRUTH: “ are not two sparrows sold for two pennies? Even the hairs on your head are numbered. Fear not you have more value than many sparrows” (Luke 12:6-7)
Cancel out the lies straight from the devils mouth with the truth that Gods given us in his word. Jesus combatted the enemy with scripture when he was being tempted. What a beautiful tool he’s given us. Now forgive the person/people that hurt you. Inner healing can only take place when you have fully forgiven someone, and laid all the bitterness down at the alter. Many people I’ve forgiven in my words, but not with my heart. When you forgive, your Heavenly Father forgives you. (Matthew 6:14-15)
Walk in your identity that the father has given you. Even if you don’t know your purpose/calling yet, speak life over yourself. What you speak, you will believe. You can’t praise God and curse yourself. Meaning you cant say how “god doesn’t make mistakes” and call yourself “fat”. Quit speaking things you believe are flaws. Fresh and salt water cannot flow from the same stream. Walk in YOUR identity and let God lead you to what he has for you.
God so often we compare ourselves to others. We want what others want, and we speak such negative things over ourselves. Lord convict us immediately as we speak negative things over ourselves/ our children/ or even our spouse. God literally grab our tongue and remind us. We thank you that you love us all individually and uniquely. We thank you that you see us for who we are, and not our struggles or someone else’s perception. Thank you for your words that set us free from bondage and lead us to healing. We thank you for exposing our own flaws, but no longer being slaves to others words. You are the king, you are our peace, and our glory. We praise you even when we cant see what you see in us. Let us truly forgive and walk in the secret places you want us to dwell with you in. Wash us, cleanse us, and let us be strong when the adversary comes to steal, kill, and destroy the plans you have for us. Let us call out a lie, and replace it with your beautiful truth, and your beautiful word. We praise you for who you are. In Jesus name, amen.